This is a place where our more liberalized society renders what were once clear lines of distinction quite blurry. A few centuries ago, such a scenario simply would not have conjured a debate. All parties would’ve seen it as inappropriate, with the violating parties receiving, shall we say, negative feedback. The “physical“ matter wouldn’t even have been come up in the discussion. The talk would never even come close to reaching that point. But today, with the “physical” being so loose and completely removed as a determinant factor of a set relationship, people find themselves having this discussion.
The solution in this scenario here would’ve been for the female to have cleared the encounter with her significant other in advance. She has a great friend who happens to be male. She bumped into them somewhere. Fine. She’s going to have lunch with him, however, she should tell her boyfriend or husband about it in advance, so there are no confusions. (I’ve actually told female friends to do this.) If it bothers him that much, then simply don’t. (Same the other way around, BTW.) one can argue that such an action shouldn’t be necessary for some minor things, like getting a ride somewhere out of necessity. However, this approach would lower the degree of possible conflicts to a much more manageable level. And any unplanned or short notice contact should be told to the significant other reasonably soon to avoid any confusion.
One commentor noted that the guy is considered “insecure” if he raises a concern for the scenario discussed. This also goes to the double standard that exists. Women want men to be MEN, but then complain when they act like, well, men! Women need to get over that.
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https://m.youtube.com/shorts/ZiDxs7pBj_U
